No, no... I'm not being morbid with this post.
I guess in my younger days, I would have considered it morbid. But now, it's putting my mind at peace.
It all started when a couple of months ago, my brother and I talked about making sure we knew what to do when our mom's time came to leave us. Mom has talked to us about what the Japanese consider the "golden death."
When their mom passed away in Japan many years ago, my mom and her two sisters returned to Sendai for the funeral. My grandmother who we called Aachan (short for obaachan) was living with my aunt and her family. She'd been quite healthy and was taking her laundry to the washing machine when she collapsed and passed away. Mom says she was amazed that at the funeral, people were happy for Aachan because she'd had the "golden death."
And then a few years ago, my Auntie Grace had a headache that was lasting quite a long time and she knew something was wrong. She called us because her son was at the airport about to board a flight. I was able to reach him with my cellphone and he asked me to call the ambulance.
Auntie Grace passed away on the way to the hospital. (The doctor just told us that we should come to the hospital but to drive safely. That was rather cryptic.) We got mom ready and rushed to the hospital. Mom was absolutely devastated to discover her sister had passed away, but now she says she's envious of the "golden death" that her mom and Auntie Grace had.
So... anyway... I'm digressing.
I made an appointment for us to talk to a representative at Mililani Mortuary where mom had bought a funeral plan in 2004. We met Marinda who went over mom's plan and was amazed at how "cheap" it was back then. She said mom bought the deluxe plan and we had nothing to worry about. Marinda then explained what we should do when mom's time came.
All this got Art and me thinking. He'd already arranged with the military cemetery a while ago to make sure everything was in order for us to be interred there.
We made an appointment with Marinda for us to discuss what kind of plan we wanted. She did say prices would be going up in the new year.
And so we went through everything carefully, made a lot of decisions and bought plans we each wanted so our children wouldn't be burdened with trying to figure anything out when we knew they would be having to deal with a lot of sorrow.
I guess this is a weird post to end the year with, but finalizing this aspect of our lives really gave us a wonderful peace of mind to take with us into 2026.
Happy New Year, everybody!














































