Wednesday, March 3, 2021

Happy Girls Day!

Mom's sister in Sendai, Japan sent us a very elaborate New Years card this year. 

The two white mounds on the card represents mochi (rice) patties. This is the sort of decorations that are placed on home altars during the new year.

There was even a sticker at the bottom that you were supposed to uncover to find your fortune for the new year. Needless to say, it foretold a very excellent year ahead for us. I certainly hope 2021 is a great year!

I've always had a special fondness for my Auntie Atsuko who is mom's youngest sister. 

I'd met her, my mother's parents and rest of the family for the first time when I traveled to Japan and stayed at my grandfather's temple for three weeks in 1970. It was part of a very reasonably priced college trip where 3 weeks were covered as part of an Art and Architecture course. You were on your own for the other 3 weeks. I'd planned to spend them with friends who were also on the trip until mom said I was to stay all three weeks in Sendai with relatives I'd never met before speaking a language that I was not totally comfortable with.

It turned out to be one of the most important times of my life and connected me to a family history I was only dimly attuned to. It was during this time that I became especially close to my grandmother and aunt. I was going through a rocky relationship with someone at the time and my aunt was the one who advised and consoled me.

When Art and I brought our children to Japan to meet my mother's family many years later, my aunt took me aside and said, "You have truly chosen wisely." That made me smile because Art couldn't speak or understand more than a few Japanese words, but she knew. In fact, I know she likes him a lot because she's given him some special things like my grandfather's old traditional house coat and some Japanese prints she knew he likes.

Today is Girls Day or Hinamatsuri in Japan. The 3rd day of the 3rd month is Girls Day. The 5th day of the 5th month is Boys Day or Tango no Sekku. May 5th is now celebrated as Children's Day encompassing both boys and girls.


However, I guess many Japanese people must still celebrate them separately as well since my aunt sent this card a couple of weeks ago.

We were absolutely amazed at how elaborate this card was.


It even came with directions on how to display it.




My aunt also enclosed a hanging display of colorful cutout pieces. Mom was so astonished and delighted that she asked us to send this to her granddaughter and great granddaughter in Illinois. She wanted KC to experience and understand a little of the Japanese cultural side of her heritage.


I am remembering a photo I saw of myself at my first Girls Day in Hawaii.


Yup. That's me. I was rather astonished at all the Girls Day dolls that are displayed here. I just asked mom how I managed to get all those dolls since I know they are NOT cheap. She says my paternal grandmother we lived with had purchased them all for me. I know she loved both me and my brother until her sad passing and was a rather adventurous, amazing woman. But that would be a topic for another story.

One thing makes me smile in this photo. Do you notice the American flags? I think my grandmother was celebrating the Japanese tradition she'd grown up with but was stating her allegiance to the country to which she now belonged.

I am blessed with my rather fabulous families from both countries.

25 comments:

  1. Well, happy Girls' Day! That baby picture of you is absolutely precious.

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  2. Wow Kay, love the ornate card, love the dolls (purely from a cultural standpoint as I AM a boy ahem), love the backstory. And my gosh, look at you--what a sweet baby photo, you're adorable :^) I envy you your rich heritage. Happy Girl's Day and PS your mom, she looks super!

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  3. I have never seen anything like this!

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  4. Love learning about this culture.

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  5. Such beautiful traditions that affirm family connections and family history. I am curious about the other side of your family? I hope you will share more about your paternal grandmother who you mentioned. Have you ever written about how your mother came to Hawaii?

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  6. Happy Girl's Day. Awww, you were such a cutie--still are. Love how your aunt saw Art's heart and worth right away. That had to make you both feel good.

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  7. I married someone from a foreign country so my girls have traditions from both. I really love the diversity of life and can't imagine my life had I married a local girl. It would certainly be different and much less diverse.

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  8. Mahalo for sharing. That beautiful photo of little Kay shows your sweet eyes and lovely smile, which you've kept all of your life. Those are elaborate displays, both then, and now! What an amazing trip to take when you met your family elders. And we're so glad you chose Art! Linda in Kansas

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  9. My great aunt gave my sister a doll that looks just like you do in the picture.

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  10. omg...look at you! look at those little piggy toes!!! that photo is too cute!

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  11. What a precious inheritance. And Art chose wisely as well!

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  12. Those cards are works of art! Happy Girl's Day and such a cute baby you were!

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  13. What a gorgeous card! My parents hosted a Japanese exchange student many years ago and he brought over some beautiful(and elaborate)items as gifts. Your visits and relationships with your relatives are such a gift and your family history a treasure.

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  14. How sweet-being the mother of four boys I guess I'd have to celelbrate me for girl's day...lol!

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  15. girls day, how sweet to have that tradition and the card is fabulous!! you were quite adorable!!

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  16. You were cute then and still cute today! Love the elaborate cards and great memories in those photos, Kay. Art is a jewel and who wouldn't see that? :-)

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  17. Simply, marvelously wonderful. Wow.

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  18. Thank you for the story and the peek into your heritage.

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  19. What a darling photo of you. So sweet. I remember girl's day in Honolulu in 1949 when we first arrived there and Dad took me (7) and my sister (5) around to see all the dolls displayed (gorgeous). That card is magnificent. Happy "Girl's Day" to you Kay.

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  20. I love that you are sharing stories about your family background!
    It's good to know that it is Girl's Day. We are celebrating Jill's birthday today, even though it is actually tomorrow. There will be six of us around my dining room table sharing take out Chinese food and homemade cherry pie, Jill's favorite. Happy Girl's Day!

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  21. When I was 20, I wanted to go to Japan SO badly! I bought some records that were to help me learn Japanese, and learned a few words and phrases until it hit me that if I didn't have someone with whom to converse in the language, I wasn't going to learn it. Japanese who still speak their native tongue are rare in Kansas City, I imagine.

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  22. What a wonderful post. You have chosen life wisely, as well.

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  23. I forgot that it was Girl's Day - I use it as an excuse to buy myself some mochi. I will do so tomorrow instead. Your family was so much better at celebrating in traditional Japanese ways. Mine was not since my mom was a single mother who worked full time, and both my grandmothers had passed away before I was born.

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  24. What a beautiful post! I love that card. Wow. JB always sends cards to our grandaughters for special occasions. He's already sent out March 17th ones!

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  25. Happy Girls Day :)

    By the way I love the roses in your header.

    All the best Jan

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