Art and I were having a conversation about what makes people appear charming. What is charm anyway? We thought about people we are drawn to. I guess our definition of charm is that special something that makes you want to spend time with someone.
We came up with a few ideas.
First and foremost is that perception certain people give of being interested in you. They ask questions and show an appreciation for what you're willing to share about yourself. Then they share of themselves as well.
It's not how physically attractive a person is. Charm makes everybody beautiful.
Vivacity. I think a charming person shows enthusiasm, energy, life.
Charming people smile warmly and meet your eyes.
Another part of charm is an interest in a lot of subjects that they are happy to share.
I believe a little touch is something that makes a friendly connection. I put an emphasis here on little because not all cultures would appreciate it. As a teacher (in the U.S.), I made myself remember to shake a parent's hand or give a friendly touch at conferences or meetings.
I admit I'm very biased in this, but I think my daughter is very charming. She is always trying to do nice things for people. Her face lights up when she talks to anyone and she is quick to convey an interest in their well-being. She listens intently to what is being shared and responds with caring.
What do you think charm is?
We came up with a few ideas.
First and foremost is that perception certain people give of being interested in you. They ask questions and show an appreciation for what you're willing to share about yourself. Then they share of themselves as well.
It's not how physically attractive a person is. Charm makes everybody beautiful.
Vivacity. I think a charming person shows enthusiasm, energy, life.
Charming people smile warmly and meet your eyes.
Another part of charm is an interest in a lot of subjects that they are happy to share.
I believe a little touch is something that makes a friendly connection. I put an emphasis here on little because not all cultures would appreciate it. As a teacher (in the U.S.), I made myself remember to shake a parent's hand or give a friendly touch at conferences or meetings.
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I admit I'm very biased in this, but I think my daughter is very charming. She is always trying to do nice things for people. Her face lights up when she talks to anyone and she is quick to convey an interest in their well-being. She listens intently to what is being shared and responds with caring.
What do you think charm is?
Charm is that certain 'je ne sais quoi'. Great that you could put a definition on it so well!
ReplyDeleteI think that you have nailed the qualities of charm. That is a beautiful picture of your daughter.
ReplyDeleteI agree, warmth-interest-eye contact all help you feel important and charmed...lol!
ReplyDeleteYou've got it, all right: the ability to make a conversation into a joyful sharing. That's charming. :-)
ReplyDeleteKay, you've described it well, and Tiffany learned it from her parents! Mahalo for sharing so much with your bloggers. DrumMajor
ReplyDeleteI think your thoughts on charm are right on target and I'm sure Tiffany learned many of her charming qualities from you.
ReplyDeleteI thought maybe you were going to answer the age-old phrase of "Third time's charm". What does that mean? I think it's a lucky charm but not the cereal:)
ReplyDeleteCan easily see that your daughter is charming if it also means beautiful.
I agree. your daughter is truly charming and beautiful as well!!!
ReplyDeleteI guess charm is like a unisex version of chivalry
ReplyDeleteYour daughter has a great warm smile. I'm sure her smile is a reflection of her inside personality. Like others have said, she learned how to be so charming from the best, her mom and dad!! You are definitely "people" people. You all genuinely care about people.
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She gets from her mother, Kay!!!!!
ReplyDeleteCharm is Tiffany.
ReplyDeleteI would like to make a fine distinction. Bias is NOT the same thing as prejudice. The word "bias" is dervived from the spin they put on a bowling ball in Elizabethan times. Prejudice means to judge without facts (to judge before (pre)). One's bias can be a sign of who you are; in your case, Tiffany's mother. Quite all right. Nature makes us start loving babies from Day One. It all depends on what one is biased about. I might say I have a bias towards Shakespeare, Morris Graves the painter, "Tosca," the opera or the Yankees. It all depends on the adjective. Racial bias is bad. In other words, you could NOT be prejudiced about Tiffany because you know her thoroughly. Your belief that she is charming is quite acceptable because it is based on facts.
ReplyDeleteExcellent post! Correct in every detail
ReplyDeleteALOHA from Waikiki
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I think you summed it up very well, that then produced a perfect example!
ReplyDeleteCharm is indefinable. Introverts like me are not charming. Extroverts like my husband David are. They are also a pain at times to Introverts because they can never get anywhere on time owing to a need to speak to everyone and or shake hands, etc. Dianne
ReplyDeleteWas halfway through commenting yesterday when there was a widespread power failure. Of course "they" never explain, so we just have to wait until it comes back on. Wasn't too very long, though.
ReplyDeleteSo...I had said all kinds of delightfully charming things about Tiffany, but I don't remember what they were. LOL
Kay, I haven't met Tiff, but I've met her mother, and if she is half as charming as you are, she's wonderful.
All the best to Art and to your mom.
K